Sadness comes to many couples in their efforts to start a family. More than one quarter of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage.
If you have lost a baby, please know that we care deeply. We want you to know that you are not alone. We are here to listen and to help, whenever you feel ready to call us.
Give Yourself Permission to Grieve
Everyone grieves in their own unique way. You may be surprised by your own and others’ reactions.
“The shock and fear of miscarriage can be overwhelming. You have… pain, and you realise there’s nothing you can do. Your whole world is thrown off balance. You lose your pregnancy. You lose your baby. You lose your self-control and you even lose something of yourself.” (Miscarriage: A Book for Parents, J & Dr SM Johnson)
There is no ‘right way’ to grieve. Each person will respond in his or her own unique way. If one of you cries more, it does not mean that the person not shedding tears loved the baby any less.
Our Pregnancy Centre staff welcome you to come and work through the grief of your miscarriage – even if your loss occurred many years ago. Please call us if you would like to make a time to come in.
You may wish to talk with someone about your grief, inscribe your baby’s name in our Book of Life, reflect quietly in our private chapel or visit our Children’s Garden of Remembrance. If you would like information on our grief resources or our Annual Mass of Remembrance, please contact us by phone or email.
We can also help you to prepare a Memorial Service for your baby at the time of your loss
“Miscarriage is a loss that very often is minimized and overlooked because it occurs so often and usually early in the pregnancy. Family and friends may make light of your loss, and not realise the depth of agony you may be suffering. Or they might expect you to feel very upset when you are actually feeling acceptance for the circumstance. Know that they are reacting from their own perspective and style of grief. You may need to speak up and tell those around you what it is you are feeling and need from them at this time.” Mourning a Miscarriage: Prayers for a Couple Grieving the Death of Their Unborn Child, J & B Hannemann
The Book of Life
The Book of Life is a unique memorial dedicated to all families who have lost a child in the womb or at birth. It has been lovingly handcrafted and specially printed pages are housed inside its beautiful wooden exterior. You are invited to commemorate your little one by inscribing their name here and to receive a memorial card as a keepsake.
The Book of Life is kept in a central spot in our private Chapel of the Holy Innocents. You are welcome to come and spend time here reflecting on your little one. Each week during our Mass at the Centre we pray for all of the babies whose names have been recorded in the Book of Life, and for their families. You are most welcome to join us.
Children’s Garden of Remembrance
The Children’s Garden of Remembrance is open during daylight hours. The garden is located behind the centre, 88 Idris Rd. Anyone grieving the loss of a child is welcome to visit. We are sure you will find comfort in this peaceful, private enclosure.
The Garden sanctuary features a unique commemoration piece, “Forever Cherished”, a serene child cradled securely within its parent’s hand.
Mass of Remembrance
Each year the John Paul II Centre for Life hosts a Mass of Remembrance for families who have lost a child in the womb or at birth. During the Mass families are invited to inscribe the name of their baby or babies in the Book of Life, and to light a candle in their memory.
A Family Share Their Story
“Our early exposure to the work of the John Paul II Centre for Life, was under sad circumstances. We attended the beautiful and very moving Remembrance Mass for those who had lost a child. At that time we had already experienced three miscarriages and so we took this opportunity to pray for the souls of our little children in heaven and write their names in the Book of Life memorial. Subsequently we have had a further four miscarriages, and also celebrated the birth of our beautiful daughter. Last month, we once again attended the Remembrance Mass to remember the seven babies we have lost in all, and it touched us deeply to see many other couples also grieving and praying for their children whom they never had a chance to know.” (Matt O’Connell)
Building Support in your Parish: through the Rosebud Program
In order to help others who are experiencing the pain of infertility, difficulty with their pregnancy or grief after losing a baby, you may like to introduce your parish to the
Please contact us if you would like to support families or talk about establishing this program in your parish.
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